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I'm just sitting a-round
being foolish
when there is work to be done

how would you deal with the dreadful cycle of jealousy and self-condemnation?

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jspark3000:

Hey dear friend, I know this is a hugely complicated issue with no easy answer, but here are some posts and maybe a jumpstart to your process.

- Jealousy vs. Generosity: A Generation Held Back

- How Do You Let God Heal You?

- Why Did God Make Emotions? A Mega-Post

 

The thing about jealousy is that 1) we despise the lot we got in life and 2) we want to be someone else.  And eventually it becomes destructive envy by 1) hoarding more than others, 2) holding others back and 3) hating really hard.

The only way out of this is 1) appreciate what God has given us and recognize He’s ultimately given us Himself, and 2) celebrate others for who they are instead of degrading them for what they’ve done. 

The thing about self-condemnation is that 1) we feel bad about feeling bad and 2) we think we’ll never get past our faults. 

The truth is that “feeling bad” often points to an objective reality of something broken with us or the world, and it’s true: we’ll never get past our faults. 

God made a provision for self-condemnation through His Son.  There’s no good advice to get us past this; there’s only good news.  You can’t out-smart your own heart into self-congratulations.  You can’t give yourself enough pep rallies to compensate for our failures.  We can only see what He has done. 

I get the feeling you’ve been measuring yourself on other people or measuring yourself on yourself.  You don’t have to do that anymore.  You can walk of that cycle right now, this second, by measuring yourself on grace.  I know it’s scary as hell to consider grace, because it’s free.  It throws off all our radars of achievement and trophies and rewards.  But it’s the only real freedom.  To know that you’re already accepted is such reckless ridiculous joy.

Maybe that’s a very churchy answer: but it’s no less true or glorious.  Don’t beat yourself up.  See you as God sees you.  Trust what He’s done.

— J.S.

spiritualinspiration:

Think about this: the only difference between a piece of black coal and a priceless diamond is the amount of pressure that it’s endured. When you stand strong in the midst of the trials and difficulties in life, when you allow God to shape and mold your character, it’s like going from a piece of coal to a priceless diamond. Those difficulties are going to give way to new growth, new potential, new talent, new friendships, new opportunities, new vision. You’re going to see your life blossom in ways that you’ve never even dreamed!

sheenalovessunsets:

"He has made everything beautiful in its time." (Ecclesiastes 3:11)
Today, Mor and I celebrate our 1 year anniversary! God has blessed us with so much more than we could ever have asked for or imagine, but for me, the greatest gift He has given me (after Himself) is my husband.
It’s such a wonderful thing to love and be loved by a man after God’s own heart. Ecclesiastes 4:10 says “When one falls, the other can help him up” and this is how it is with us. He keeps me accountable with everything that goes on in my life and he inspires me everyday to ‘press on’ in my walk with Jesus. Everyday, I thank God for him. :)
It is only by His grace alone that we can celebrate this day together today. Life together hasn’t been perfect, of course, and I know there will be many more challenges ahead of us but I know God is faithful to finish the work He has begun in us so we are both just very excited to experience His love even more in the years to come!

sheenalovessunsets:

"He has made everything beautiful in its time." (Ecclesiastes 3:11)

Today, Mor and I celebrate our 1 year anniversary! God has blessed us with so much more than we could ever have asked for or imagine, but for me, the greatest gift He has given me (after Himself) is my husband.

It’s such a wonderful thing to love and be loved by a man after God’s own heart. Ecclesiastes 4:10 says “When one falls, the other can help him up” and this is how it is with us. He keeps me accountable with everything that goes on in my life and he inspires me everyday to ‘press on’ in my walk with Jesus. Everyday, I thank God for him. :)

It is only by His grace alone that we can celebrate this day together today. Life together hasn’t been perfect, of course, and I know there will be many more challenges ahead of us but I know God is faithful to finish the work He has begun in us so we are both just very excited to experience His love even more in the years to come!

"No one will miss me", "I’m better off dead"

after-crisis:

When I worked at a non-profit that handled suicide prevention, I had access to the donation records. Each month, a specific man donated 15$ to our organization. It was like clockwork.. same day, same man, he had been doing this for over 4 years. It always seemed odd to me but I never questioned it… until I saw a note attached one month. "For Noah- Dad"

his donation was once his child’s allowance.

I can promise you, they would miss you for the rest of their lives.

jspark3000:

In Heaven, there will only be one person with scars. You’ll have none because he’ll have taken yours.
— J.S.

littlethingsaboutgod:

spiritualinspiration:

Friend, if you’re going to live in victory, you have to know how to praise in your midnight hour — when things seem the darkest, when you’re in pain, disappointed, lonely or experiencing a loss. When you praise Him no matter what, that’s when God can enter your situation. That’s when He can break your chains and set you free!

Remember, a sacrifice of praise is when it costs you something, when you don’t necessarily feel like doing it. Praise Him, not because of how you feel, but because He is worthy! Praise Him in your midnight hour and get ready to embrace the freedom He has planned for you!

Nothing feels quite right, does it? I haven’t felt like this in a while, and it hurts to think. When did this fog set in? Where did my lighthouse go? What happened to the things I once was so sure of? It feels hollow, and I’m scared that it won’t go back, that I’ll drift for awhile and not ever have anything to return to.

Oh, but I see now, I must look up and see the beauty of that northern star; the silence of it will not tell me where to go, but the fact that it is where it is, will guide me home.

Do we not all have a northern star? Do we not all have Christ?

Who He is, and where He is, is the sign for where we must go; that is hope in the darkness, in the confusion of it all. Christ standing with arms out stretched, showing us our way home, showing us our way to Him.

T.B. LaBerge // Go Now (via tblaberge)

lovexguitar:

“Don’t put your faith in your ability to pray, put your faith in the finished work of Jesus.”
— Dan Mohler

jspark3000:

 

Hello beloved wonderful friends! 

My e-book has finally been released!

It’s called, What The Church Won’t Talk About: Real Questions From Real People About Raw, Gritty, Everyday Faith

The Foreword is by the amazing T.B. LaBerge of tblaberge and the cover art is by my most excellent friend Rob Connelly.

It’s only $4.29!  With every purchase, you’ll also be supporting my new calling into urban inner-city ministry, plus a soon-to-be-married couple!  And if you’re blessed by the book, please consider writing a review on Amazon! The reviews will really, really help out.

The book is made for the Amazon Kindle Reader program, which is totally free and works on everything. You can download the program here or directly here!

Love y’all and be blessed, dear friends!

— J.S.

Stop trying to always fix me.
Don’t lecture me.
Don’t patronize me.
Sit with me.
Mourn with me.
Cry with me.
Laugh with me.
Pray with me.
Hope with me.
Remind me of God’s faithfulness.
Eugene Cho (via jspark3000)